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Cary H. Miller December 28, 1941 - September 25, 2019

Cary Hirsh Miller passed away on September 25, 2019 at 77 years of age. He was born to Jean Silverman and Hyman Miller in Chicago, Illinois.  He married Jessica Janeann Wilharm in 1962, in a civil ceremony and again on 1973 in a Jewish religious ceremony.

Cary was active in the US Air Force from 1961 through 1969, in ground weather and airborne weather service (Typhoon hunters).  He was part of the ground launch team for the Apollo 11 mission.   After this, he sought work in sales, aviation, and/or maintenance:  He sold Volkswagens and air conditioners, he leased planes and he helped run an airport.  Then he started his own businesses, first in next-day freight delivery, then in energy management.  He liked selling to provide things people actually wanted, rather than to talk people into things they didn’t want.  He liked working with anyone who could do good work.  For example, it was not uncommon for him to team up with a Muslim to install energy systems in Mormon churches and he often provided work and then references to good people who no one wanted to hire for some reason.

Cary was a founding member of Congregation Ner Tamid and an active member since the beginning.  He served on the board and participated in many congregation and community-wide activities over the past 36 years.

He did not force his own dreams on his family but went after them himself, though he did usually make sure there was easy access to a swimming pool.  He supported his wife in her quest to complete her degrees.  He toured colleges with his eldest.  He went to space camp with his son.  Whenever they were in unfamiliar territory, he always told his youngest that they were never lost, just going on an adventure, or taking the scenic route, a tradition she has continued with her own children.

Cary was an effective negotiator, using such tactics as respect for the other guy and win‑win scenarios.  He loved telling stories and loved a good joke.  He enjoyed traveling and meeting new people.  He preferred learning new things by forging new relationships rather than researching dry records.  He fought for the underdog.

Cary is survived by his brother Ross, his wife, three children: Deborah, David, and Sunny, six grandchildren: Michael, Samantha, Tiffany, Jessica, Alexandra, and Charlotte, and two and half great grandchildren.  He will be missed.  So, everybody out of the pool and put some feet on your shoes!

A funeral service, with Air Force honors, was held on September 26, 2019 at the DFW National Cemetery in Dallas, Texas.

A memorial service will be held at Congregation Ner Tamid 751 Hebron Parkway, #340, Lewisville, Texas 75057 at 2:00 p.m. on October 20, 2019.


  1. Lou McKay says

    I had the great pleasure of working with Cary on many Honeywell/LDS projects, a joy to be around and a wealth of knowledge. A life well Lived !

  2. Max Gandy PE says

    Cary was an expert and always helped us get the control drawings updated. He always told the truth if the situation. . I especially enjoyed talking about each other’s Air Force experiences.

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